What Women Need To Know About Orgasm (II)
(Continued from last week)
Female Sensual Receptors
Although it is true that the entire body is, in some way, involved during climax, the key sensual receptor will always be the clitoris. Without engaging the clitoris directly or indirectly, there can be no prospect of orgasm. It seems difficult, particularly for men, to understand that something as diminutive as the clitoris could be so vitally important. How could this tiny, almost external appendage be infinitely more sensitive than the vagina itself?
Intuition would make you believe that the lining or walls of the vagina are somehow more akin to the tip of the penis. Following that logic, these two matching surfaces would engage one another during intercourse resulting in ultimate mutual pleasure, physically and emotionally. Yet, for some reason, nature has played a trick. During intercourse, primarily the emotional element comes into play, as the female creates a physical union with male.
There is a simple but not necessarily well-known explanation for this circumstance. Unlike the glans of the penis, the vagina has relatively few sensual receptors. Ironically, the deeper the penetration, the fewer the receptors. The relatively few nerve receptors, which do exist in the vagina, are actually located at the upper third, which in many women may be only marginally sensitive at best.
For a woman to achieve climax the clitoris must be stimulated in some fashion. This can be accomplished in two ways, directly or indirectly. With the indirect method, the male’s pubic bone may push up against the clitoris while thrusting during intercourse. Or the penis may rub against the vulva, which, because of its proximity to the clitoris, may result in indirect stimulation. Considering these circumstances, it should be evident that indirect stimulation of the clitoris is not very efficient. It is actually a testimonial to the clitoris’s remarkable sensitivity that indirect stimulation is even sufficient to produce climax for about 30 to 40 per cent of women.
The clitoris is a bundle of nerves about the size of a pea located at the top of a woman’s vulva, above the urethral opening. It is very sensitive and is responsible for feelings of sexual pleasure when stimulated. The clitoris plays a significant role in orgasms, and can produce orgasms with or without sexual penetration. Female circumcision, also known as female genital mutilation, removes the clitoris to prevent the woman from feeling sexual pleasure.
By most accounts, the clitoris is the counterpart of the tip or “glans” of the penis, with three primary differences:
a) The urethra does not pass though the clitoris.
b) It is smaller in size.
c) It is significantly more sensitive due to the greater number of nerve receptors (per square inch) than those found on the glans of the penis.
In this case, it should be fair to assume that it is not possible for the majority of women to reach climax solely as a result of intercourse in the missionary position (face to face).
What Might Be The Alternative?
Any position which allows the male partner easy and unrestricted access to the clitoris is the answer. For example: with the male laying on his back, and the female straddling his waist (facing him). In this position, it’s easily possible for the female to engage in thrusting, while allowing the male to directly stimulate her clitoris with his fingers.
Another alternative is engaging in intercourse with the male entering from the rear. With the female positioned in a forward kneeling position, she would have one hand free. This would allow her to stroke her clitoris to the point of full climax in concert with the thrusting action of her partner. The application of this technique may make it possible for the couple to coordinate their efforts of reaching that elusive and highly prized “simultaneous” orgasm.