Last week, I dwelt considerably  on the female G-spot, how ladies  can locate, enjoy and stimulate it as well as how her partner can turn her into putty with a G-spot orgasm. What most men are far less familiar with is their own male G-spot. 

Guys, some of you may be surprised to learn that the prostate is, essentially, the male equivalent of a woman’s G-spot and yours is far, far easier to find. I acknowledge and realise that for some, the idea of exploring this area may be a taboo, but if you keep an open mind as you flow with me here, my advice can lead you towards locating your G-spot, know what it can do for your sex life and ultimately lead you to experiencing the best orgasm you can ever hope for. 

The male G-spot is not difficult to find, but it does require a little patience as well as making yourself very relaxed and comfortable. Bathing beforehand can put you more at ease with the process, so I recommend starting out with a nice warm shower. 

Next is finding your G-Spot. Lying on your back is generally considered to be the most comfortable position for this, so you will probably want to make use of the bed or perhaps a large sofa. The process will be easiest with your legs elevated, which you can do by simply leaning your legs against the wall behind the bed or draping them over the back of the sofa. If you are still having difficulty reaching the perineum from this position, you can lift your backside further by sliding a pillow or two under your butt.

If you are bold and would like to take one step further, enemas are not uncommon and you may choose to add this to your regimen.

Once you’ve made yourself as comfortable as possible, start by gently massaging the area surrounding your anus. Most men enjoy having their taint (also known as the perineum) stimulated and that can certainly be incorporated into this process. Use the soft pad of your index finger while exploring and be gentle. 

As you relax further, lube your finger up and let it gently brush across the surface of your anus. Repeat this move several times, each time increasing the pressure slightly. When you are comfortable enough to begin probing, you should keep things slow and gentle, taking care to relax your sphincter during the process. 

Once you come in contact with the male G-spot, you will recognise it as a small, chestnut-sized bump situated approximately two inches inwards.

Having located your G-spot, you are therefore ready for stimulation. There are a number of methods you can utilise. I want to, however, recommend that you keep it simple if you are a novice. So, a finger will just be sufficient for you as a beginner. Regardless, you will need a good supply of lubrication on hand, particularly the type specifically made for anal play. 

Note that it will take some experimentation to discover what works best for you in terms of stimulation. 

Now, return to one of the positions I mentioned earlier, that is, lying on your back with your legs and backside elevated and repeat the steps you used to locate the prostate. 

As you prepare to stimulate your G-spot, keep in mind that the techniques vary greatly. Some men enjoy soft and gentle thrusting movements while some prefer intense, constant pressure on the prostate itself. You might prefer a mix of the two or something entirely different. The key is to give your body the chance to react and respond even as you take your time (it’s worth it, isn’t it?) to reach orgasm. 

It is equally important to note that you may not find any of these methods pleasurable during the first exploration and that’s perfectly normal. When you experience this first discomfort, don’t despair, you can always try again in the future.

Let me take you further through some of the various techniques that you can use in this process:

*Your Finger: I already mentioned this but you should not limit this method to solo exploration. Believe it or not, many women enjoy performing this type of stimulation on their partners right inside the bedroom, particularly when the resulting orgasms can be so powerful.

If you would like to try something highly erotic, please have your woman to give you a blow job while stimulating your prostate. 

Now, do not be ashamed to encourage her do this for you, the result can be explosive. The G-spot goodie here is to simply brace your hands against the back of a sofa and bend over at a 90-degree angle. Spread your legs apart and have your wife or woman to get on her knees in front of you. This will allow her to perform oral sex, while still being able to stimulate your prostate.

(To be continued next week)