ShareI met one Heartquake fan in Abuja last week who asked what the much touted G-spot is all about. Basically, this is a part within your vagina that is bound to give you the ultimate in sexual sensation, a counterpart of the clitoris that is meant solely to bring you sexual pleasure and enjoyment.  If the clitoris is a pleasure button located on the front wall of the vagina, the G-spot is supposed to be a bean-shaped tissue which is located about a couple of inches up the vaginal wall.

It was Dr. Ernst Grafenberg who discovered the spot way back in the 1950s, and it was his surname that the Grafenberg Spot or G-spot was named after. In medical terms, it is a spongy tissue of the paraurethral gland, making it pretty much the equivalent of the male prostate. I understand that it was Grafenberg who was the first modern physician to claim that when this spot is stimulated during sex through vaginal penetration of some kind, some women have an orgasm like a gush of fluid from the urethra (sometimes called female ejaculation). When I asked Bimpe, my long standing medical doctor friend, she told me this kind of orgasm is often called a vaginal orgasm because it is different from the clitoral orgasm which is equally caused by stimulating the clitoris.

What makes targeting the G-spot such an elusive spot that is worth discovering is because it is a part of every woman’s body. It’s the holy land of a woman’s pleasure zones. It is that oh-so-elusive spot that some women themselves cannot find and which some believe is probably not even true. It is such an ecstatic experience for women because basically, this tiny tissue, when stimulated, is bound to bring her to a toe-curling, mind-blowing or even earth-shattering orgasm that she will not forget anytime soon.

The actual G-spot, which can be felt, once found, is about the size of a quarter and about two inches from the vaginal opening. For ladies who have discovered their G-spots, they will agree with me that it is, indeed, a pleasure zone. For my female readers who have not, now that you already have an idea about what the G-spot exactly is, let me guide you on a couple of tips you need to experience a G-spot orgasm either with or without your partner:

Make sure that you have plenty of lubrication whether you are using your fingers, a sex toy or you are having a G-spot orgasm through actual penetration.

Prior to targeting the G-spot, make sure that you are fully aroused. Once your G-spot is located, stimulation can begin. Stimulation in the absence of arousal can be uncomfortable or even painful. Adequate lubrication is also necessary for successful stimulation. To stimulate your G-spot, ask your partner to lightly tap the rough area with a constant rhythmic motion, this will make you wet and give you orgasm.

Note that the sensations which please another woman may not be the same as yours, since every individual is different. For some, stimulating the G-spot may bring them to an earth-shattering orgasm while for others, targeting the area may cause some discomfort.

You must properly locate your G-spot. If you are using your fingers to stimulate the area, make sure you apply plenty of lubrication to either your middle or index finger. Place your fingers on the vaginal opening and once you are about a couple of inches in, make a hooking or a come-hither motion with your fingers pointing towards the belly button. Once you have hit a tissue which feels rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall, make a constant tapping motion until you reach a G-spot orgasm. You can feel the G-spot because of the sensations that stimulating brings and also, the tissue there is rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall.

Don’t fret if you find out later that you don’t personally like having your G-spot stimulated –there are plenty of other zones within your body that you can have an orgasm from.

All in all, learning what the G-spot is and working towards having a G-spot orgasm is all a matter of being comfortable with your body, with your partner and not being afraid to experiment.

Ironically, some believe the G-spot is a myth because they have never found it but every woman has one even though it is sometimes difficult to pinpoint and not all women respond the same way, to its stimulation.

Because many women do not believe their G-spot exists, there are many myths surrounding this often elusive gland, including the notion that finding a woman’s G-spot is the only way to induce an orgasm.
This is not true. Ladies can comfortably achieve organism through clitoral or vaginal stimulation and for some, through breast stimulation. Another myth is that any woman who cannot achieve orgasm through G-spot stimulation has a medical problem. This cannot be true as all women respond differently to G-spot stimulations. I know of ladies who find it too uncomfortable to be aroused by the G-spot which is completely normal and acceptable.

So, ladies, after learning about the basics of what exactly the G-spot is and where it is located in your vagina, the best way for you to have a G-spot orgasm is to discover exactly where the spot is by yourself. Once you are already familiar with the area, the next thing is for you to guide your partner to discover it too.

So, gals, have you ever had a G-spot orgasm? Do you even believe that such a spot exists?  If your answer to both of these questions is a resounding “no,” then, read this piece again to learn that which you need to know about how to find your G-spot and enjoy the sensations that it brings to women, which makes both men and women dub it as the holy land of a woman’s pleasure zones. Share