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Saturday, 21 August 2010
Dear Yemisi,
I am married with two sons. My husband is having an affair with a lady who I learnt is now pregnant. He no longer sleeps in the house and he has started to pack his shirts out of our apartment.Help me, I am confused and I love my husband.
Joy.
Dear Joy,
Before you conclude that your husband is having an affair with another lady outside, kindly look inwards to establish if you were responsible for his having to seek solace outside.
Having said this, it is commendable that you remained steadfast in your love for the man in spite of his alleged romance out of his matrimony.
Now that you are still claiming to be in love with him, the solution to the problem is at hand. Are you doubly sure that the alleged lady is actually pregnant for your spouse? You need to investigate properly before you conclude. Why has he chosen to take some of his belongings out while also sleeping out if he is assured of your acclaimed love for him?
One of the ways out is to establish a contact with the ‘pregnant lady’ to confirm your fears. At least you will know a very close associate of hers who wouldn’t mind finding out the true picture for you.
In case this approach appears cumbersome, your mother, pastor, Imam or a close in-law could bail you out of the veracity of your claim. If the story is true, then you have to brace up with the attendant challenges of a polygamous set-up. You cannot run away because of his action, neither would you abandon your children. All you have to do is to face your God, children and work and probably make his presence at home comfortable.
With time, he would regain his senses and amend his ways where possible.
Please, don’t allow this to destabilise or turn you to a whore in an attempt to pay him back in his coins.
Don’t worry, he will lose in the end.
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