He is still close to his ex girlfriend
I met and started dating a guy four months ago. I had just broken up a relationship and he also just did too.
We shared our experiences and made up our minds to stay by each other. To my surprise however, my boyfriend still communicates with his ex-girlfriend.
Sometimes he would call her or if she called him they would be on phone for minutes on end. Sometimes he would excuse himself to speak with her privately.
I have raised this issue with him and told him that this attitude makes me feel bad. Everytime I did this, he would apologise and promise that it won’t happen again, but it does again.
This lady is already in another relationship. I don’t know how to handle this situation any longer. Please, help me.
You need to be very Patient here. Your first step should be assessing yourself and your feeling about this guy. It is very early to win him totally to your side if you really want him. It is good that he did querrel with his girlfriend because of you. They had already broken up before you met him. So you need to work on him and gain his trusts.
This is also easy because his ex is already in another relationship. Be very mindful so that you don’t nag him or fuss abou it. Let him realise how much you care about him and how much he trusts you to see him still relating that much with his ex.
Don’t quarrel with him. I am sure with diplomacy you can win his trust and if you see that he is not changing or you cannot stand this behaviour of his, please, take a walk and do what make you happy.