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Reforming the Muslim family: Prohibited degrees in marriage

"Also (prohibited are) women already married, except those whom your right hand posses. Thus Hath Allah ordained (prohibitions) against you... Q4:24

Allah praise is due unto Almighty Allah and peace with abundant blessings be upon our leader Muhammad and all the entire Muslims who follow the legacy he left behind till the last hour.

Every society is a reflection of its family unit. In continuation of our message on this page that had to be paused for the essence of the month of Ramadan, we consider it imperative to reach a logical conclusion on the issue at stake. This is because marriage as a natural phenomenon is the desire of every man and woman of marriageable age; unfortunately, it is highly disturbing to see relationship bound together with love and affection yesterday soon turn sour today. One wonders, where all the "I love you" that characterised the pre-marriage relationship went and why heartthrobs become heart robs and the beloved soon become the detested. These problems can only be solved by getting to the root of the matter.

Allah forbids a man from marrying certain degree of women either as a result of their blood relationship or fosterage. Fosterage is a milk relationship in which two or more people become related through the same mother from whom they were breast fed. In Islamic law, foster relationship takes the same position as blood relationship in certain matters especially as it relates to marriage and the concept of hijab. A foster mother is one who breast feeds children on behalf of herself and other women. If for instance, a child is born from a deceased mother. (a women who dies during labour or shortly after delivery), the women who breast feed such a child is his or her foster mother, therefore that child has a foster relationship with woman's real child or children. Islam forbids marriage between those children who sucked breast.

Islam also prohibits marriage with your wives' mother, your step daughters under your guardianship born of your real wives. However, if one is ready to divorce one's wife to whom one had not had any sexual intercourse in preference for her daughter, this is permissible. But if one has gone into one's wife once, her daughters become haram (forbidden). Islam also stretches the fact that if is abominable for a man to marry the wife (wives) of his son (dead or living). Also, Islam prohibits going into marriage relationship with two sisters at the same time i.e. joining twin sisters or a senior sister with her junior in wedlock. The exception to this is when a man loses his wife and the parents of such deceased wife decided to give any of her younger sisters to the husband of deceased daughter. The holy Prophet (S.A.W) exemplified this when he give his daughter - Ummu Khulthum to Sayyidina Uthman bin Affan in replacement of Zainab his daughter who has once been the former's wife but deceased.

Scholars of Islam said this was born out of the Prophets flair for Uthman who was a man of dignity among the Quraysh others also said the wisdom behind this move was to ensure bosom care for the children of the deceased wife which can naturally spring from her blood sister.

It is a common practice among some Muslims to marry woman not legally divorced. In Islam, a woman remains her husband wife until divorce is pronounced and such woman passes, three menstrual periods in the original husbands household without any renewal before such a woman is qualified to marry another man. Allah (SWT) says: “divorced woman shall want concerning themselves for three monthly periods and it is not lawful for them to hide what Allah created in their wombs. If they believe in Allah and the last day and their husband have the right to take them back during that period if they desire reconciliation...” Q2:228. This means that a woman needs to observe three monthly period consecutively in the house of her husband after the expiration of which she’s free to remarry or decide otherwise even though it is best for her to re-settle down with a man.

It is antithetical to Islamic teaching for man to snatch the wife of his neighbour or another muslim and for a woman to pack out of her husband’s house abruptly and be found with another husband the following day.

Another odious practice among the ignorant muslims is that which a woman would engage in adulterous relationship with her neighbour husband and vice versa. Such abhorrent practices is most detestable to Almighty Allah because it is a breach of trust on the part of those involved and at the same time a curse on the society. Those who fall into such class are called to sincere repentance and turn a new leaf for Allah is Oft-Returning Forgiving.

We pray Almighty Allah (SWT) continue to guide us to the right path. Amin.

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