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Help! My sister-in-law harrassed my son sexually
I am in a state of confusion and sorrow. I have always believed blood is thicker than water, but I never knew it could be to the state of complete blindness. I thought I knew my husband of over 15 years but alas, I have been so wrong. I never for once believed that my husband would take a sibling’s words against his nuclear family’s.
Oba and I met the very first day I started my first job at his branch. It was love at first sight and for the two of us; it was serious business from the beginning. The snag however was his mother who for one reason or the other had something against the tribe I come from.
She did not hide her displeasure for Ekiti people, she is from Ijebu and I always wondered why because we all are Yoruba. Her displeasure did not stop at the tribal sentiment, she extended it to me. It became a source of worry, but Oba always told me not to worry as she would get over it. Unfortunately, she never did. Instead of the issue getting better, it started spreading and taking root in their family as his siblings began to take sides.
His dad, was a pleasant man and he showed his displeasure all the time when Oba’s mother discriminated against to me. I really did not know why, but his only female sibling and I did not get on. She always took sides with their mother. I tried all I could to get close to her, but I wasn’t lucky.
I always thanked my stars that Oba and I got married before his father’s demise. Probably I wouldn’t have got married to him if his father died before we did. Oba and I got married two years after we met, some people felt it was too early, but for us we would have wished it was earlier. We had a beautiful home. We were happy with each other. The only comma we had was when we had to wait for the fruit of the womb for two years, but the waiting was bearable because we had each other. Although, Oba’s mother wanted to create problems, but the Lord was on my side.
I gave birth to Eyitayo three years after my marriage and his sister came to stay with us not long after. Oba’s father died not long after my second child was born. After Oba father’s death, his sister travelled abroad with her fiancée. No one knew exactly what happened, but not long after she left, the relationship broke; but she did not return to the country immediately.
She however came back two years ago and things have not been easy for her. She still remained unmarried. She stayed with her mother for some months in Ibadan and Oba later suggested that she moved to Lagos. He helped her secured a job and accommodation was no problem as we have a boys quarter apartment that no one occupied in our house.
I had no objection to her staying with us; I felt it was a good development. I saw an opportunity to befriend her and I tried my best to do just this. I never allowed her to cook or do anything, my house keeper combines her chores and her cooking with ours. It was just an extension of the house. Oba wanted privacy for her and her apartment was just good for his wish.
To be continuedShare
written by Sayo Ojo Gbemi, June 14, 2012