Right choices and happiness (V)

By Mrs Faith Oyedepo - updated: Sunday 28.06.2009

Dear Reader,
This week, I will be concluding this months’ teaching by looking at Maturity and Compatibility in making the right choices.

Maturity: In God’s concept of marriage, marriage is for men and women, not for boys and girls. God’s Word says: The rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man (Genesis 2:22). Therefore shall a man...cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh (Genesis 2:24). Take particular note of these words ‘man’ and ‘woman’ in the above passages.

Maturity is required before marriage. One needs to be matured spiritually, physically and emotionally. However, maturity can be determined from two points of view: age and ability to handle life situations. These two put together, help in determining how matured an individual is. One that is matured for marriage should be able to assume responsibility for his/her actions, and take up the welfare of his/her spouse and children. If you are not matured enough to be a parent, then you are not matured enough for marriage.

Parents, hear this: As Christian parents, your part is to trust the Holy Spirit to guide your children in the right choices of a marriage partner. Once they are matured enough and ripe for marriage, allow them to choose their partners as led by the Spirit of God. There is no point in hurrying your son to get married. Let him become a man first, then you will also have peace. I believe very strongly that one of the reasons for the upsurge in the divorce rate today, is because very many boys and girls enter into marriage when their minds are not matured enough for the responsibility of decision making; so the marriage breaks up. Maturity is not a function of age alone, it has a vital part to play in marriage.

Compatibility: Compatibility is another issue to consider, when it comes to making right choices in marriage. Anyone you are choosing must be one you are compatible with. Two cannot walk together except they be agreed (Amos 3:3). God will never lead you to someone that you will always disagree with. If God says two cannot walk together except they be agreed, He never will ask you to marry someone you cannot agree with.

For God to lead you to make right choices, you must become His child. Until you are a child of God, your mind is not renewed to make right choices. This is why it becomes very important that you surrender your life to Christ.

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