Men’s deepest desire!

By Ruth Olurounbi

“There is something so sensitive and vulnerable about the side of men that desires a woman's love. A lot of men are very uncomfortable with how deeply they desire warmth, intimacy, and emotional companionship of a woman. It's at odds with the rough-and rugged, love-them-and-leave-them, macho stereotype that many men believe they should live up to. So, as a result, a lot of men suppress their need to be loved and instead focus on their drive to be competitive, ambitious, and successful,” says a professional writer specialising in attraction, dating and relationships, Ms. Amy Waterman.

It may, therefore, be suprising to note that no matter how competitive and successful a man becomes, he still cares about what women think of him. He wants women to know how succesful he is. He wants to feel admired and appreciated by women. And guess what? As a woman, you have the power to make his day...or crush him. For ages gone by, men have prided themselves on their ability to appear cool, confident, calm and collected on the outside, so it had become almost as frustrating as it can be, when a woman does not know those hidden thoughts and beliefs that lurk in a man’s heart, what confuses men about women, and what they like about women.

You are not going to believe this. Men care way too much about what you (as a woman) think about them. At least expert on attraction, datting and relationships think so. As if that is not enough, a man recently confessed that they are obsessed with feeling desired by women. He admitted that they feel half a woman if they admit to their friends that they have not had any romantic experience or if they haven’t got a girlfriend before. According to him, that is simply too embarrasing. Men, unlike women often feel isolated and cut off from the rest of the world when it comes talking about their love lives (or lack of it). Other men are not much help when it comes to teaching them about women, and women themselves seem like creatures from another planet...goddesses who hold the keys to bliss dangling enticingly from aloof hands,” says Waterman.

As a result, men experience an overwhelming feeling of uneasiness when they want to approach an attractive woman. Some at this stage much to their frustration, cannot make themselves approach the woman. Now, you might begin to wonder why do men worry so much about walking up to a woman and ask her for a date? Afterall there’s nothing scary about her! Wait a bit. As a woman, you hold the power that could crush a man or scare him to death. Do you know what it is? Rejection. He is afraid you may not like him, or may not want to date him. He may also feel you don’t find him attractive enough. And guess what? “That would make him feel like utter crap,” an expert explained. Do you know see their plight? You might also believe that all men care about his sex. You may not be very wrong but you may not be very right either. According to Watherman, “men much more like us than you think. Men need love, reassurance, admiration, respect, and affection. Unfortunately, very few of them know how to ask for it.”

Another mystery about men is that they adore evrything about a woman. Men said all those parts of your body that piss you off- like the unshapely tighs, the varicose veins and all that you consider as minus - are part of the magic of your body to them. Mr. Joseph Majasan is of the opinion that women who wish that their body was leaner, firmer or more angular should have a rethink as what they (men) prefer is that a woman’s body be soft and curvaceous because those are what make a woman’s body different form a man’s. Apart from the above mentioned, another thing that fascinate men is the level of a woman’s openess.

By nature, men are not generally open, not even to their male buddies, except some few rare ones. As against men’s lack of openess, men are mystefied is how easily we can be open, sharing, and affectioned around friends, strangers, small children, puppy dogs. The feminine personalty is a source of wonder to most men, and they love basking in its warmth. Men connect with their male friends in a very differnt way than how women connect. Men banter, insult one another, crack jokes, e.t.c. When a man is in an emotional turmoil, for example, his buddies help him deal with it by getting him drunk. As a result, when a man needs a hug, the only person he can go to is a woman.”

What this suggest is that men need women in their lives so that they can talk about their feelings without being embarrased, so that they can show their emotions without being being ashamed. They need women in their lives so that they can hold and be held, they need the presence of women in their lives so that they can be whole, complete people. Maybe you don’t know, most men’s deepest desire is not to have supermodel in his arm as a testimony to his success life, an expert has said; rather, for most of them, their deepest desire is to be in the company of a woman who is free with heart, joyous in her feminity, affectionate with her love, un ashamed of her vulnerabilities, and utterly female in all those mysterious way that they adore, the expert submitted.

The best gift you can give a man is your feminine presence because being with you will allow him to express a different side of his personality that he may have repressed in the past because he thought it meant he was less of a man.

(To continued next week).
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