What women want from their men
By Monica Taiwo- updated: Thursday 04-06-2009
 While guys believe they are often misunderstood by women, most ladies have complained that men don’t understand them either, whether it is in the work place, at home or even in the bedroom. Many times, breakdown in communication, a sort of disconnection between what a guy says or feels and what a lady hears or believes, is at the root of those things that threaten fruitful relationships.
Women are emotional and would rather show their feelings in ways that put the average man off. Nevertheless, if you really want that relationship to last, why not analyse what your woman really wants from you and seems to be saying indirectly.
She wants you to be honest
Honesty is the best virtue when dealing with your woman. If you just want to seize the moment and have a fair fun date, tell her in a plain language. No matter how, it may hurt initially but if you don’t fully discuss the boundaries of your relationship and your intentions, it will hurt even more in the long run.
She needs to know if the two of you are going to be monogamous or you are going to unofficially practise polygamy. If you are not going to be committed, tell her so that she can decide whether or not to hold on to you until she finds her ideal companion.
She needs to be reassured
Your woman wants to be reassured that she is the apple of your eyes at all times, not just at the beginning of your relationship. She needs be cared for, not necessarily monetarily alone.
She desires that she feels special and emotionally attached with you. When you give other women attention, when both of you are on a date or you took her to any official or family function, she gets really turn off.
She doesn’t want to be compared
Nothing hurts quite as much as being compared to some other women. She is not your mother, your favourite aunt, your model-like co-worker or that artificially enhanced actress on television. Remember your woman is an individual and should treated as such. It’s horrendous when a man finds it necessary to make unrealistic comparison to his woman, which hurts her ego more than anything and her desire to love him like she knows she can.
Be frank about your female friends
The most effective way to get your woman to read between the lines is to have female friends tucked away whom she doesn’t know about. Make your woman know the extent of your friendship, and reassure her that it is just a friendship and nothing extraordinary is going on. If you are secretive about your friendship, she may read meaning into it. Furthermore, your male friends should always be courteous and respectful when dealing with your woman to prevent any flare up.
She can’t be bought
Although your woman does love flower, candy and gifts, most women don’t appreciate men who believe that love, affection or forgiveness can be bought at the nearest boutique. Frequent elaborate gifts are tale signs of something.
She prefers a gentleman
Contrary to popular belief, most women enjoy being fussed over; it’s very romantic for a man to hail a cab vacate a sit for a woman or open a door for a her. Men shouldn’t fuse a woman’s strength with her desire to be treated like a lady. Men who believe courtesy is dead are a major than-off to women.
She wants to be pampered
No matter who they are or where they work, there has never been a time in history when women didn’t want to be pampered.
Go for shopping with her, get a mudwrap, have some stimulating conversation in the whirlpool.
Get home together after a hard day’s work to a rich bubble bath and good dinner. Nothing is sweeter to your woman’s ear than a little flattery.
Lie to her, tell her she looks good, even if you don’t like her outfit. Or after she had slaved over your dinner, compliment the meal she has prepared for you.
She wants a man who knows the difference between sex and love
She likes gentle kisses and caresses, and she wants to be hugged and babied all the time in the car and even on the street.
Sometimes, she just want a little romance and this shouldn’t always lead to the bedroom. You need to understand that it’s not always about sex.
Don’t tend to think romance is sex, but sometimes, your woman just want to be hugged.
She wants you to blow her mind
When the two of you are in the bedroom, be creative, attentive and don’t hold back-Fundle her, caress her, show her non-verbal and verbal intimacy situations. Both of you must work hard to achieve romantic bliss.
If you want to achieve a peaceful, loving existence with your woman, you must first be peaceful with yourself. You can’t be good to anybody if you can’t be good to yourself.
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