Senior citizen sex? ...At over 50, you can still enjoy sex

DEE took Mariam for a drink after office hours at their usual joint. As they were about leaving, very young girl and a man old enough to be her grandfather walked in. It was very obvious to those around that something very intimate and romantic was between the two of them.

The young lady was all over the old man and he kept grinning like a school boy on his first date with his first love.

Dee and Mariam were not the only ones who saw them and were irritated by their unguarded show of lust, infact another customer unconsciously spoke his mind and probably because he knew the old man. He said,” this old fool abandoned his wife at home and is chasing girls hardly out of diapers, girls young enough to be his grand children about,” some people who were close enough to hear what he said laughed, but the love-birds did not hear him or any one, they were oblivious to their environment.

Mariam then asked see if he would do that to her when they are married and are advanced in age. He said no, but of course according to mariam most older men prefer to go for younger girls, probably because they cannot enjoy good sex with their old partners again.

She wanted to know of it is possible to still enjoy sex with your spouse when one is old.
I can assure you that it is not only mariam that is asking this question, many men and women out there are asking the same question.

The answer is yes. These are some tips to help out and improve you sex life as a senior citizen.

Dealing with the Physical Changes
As we age, especially towards our “golden years”, our bodies change on the outside, but even more drastically on the inside, for both men and women.

For aging men, hormone levels drops significantly, causing sex drive to drop. The slightest distraction and Pooh! There goes the romantic interest you had in your partner a moment ago. Talk to your doctor if you experience erectile dysfunction. Ask about possible sex­related side effects of any medication you may be taking, and inquire about alternatives.

For aging women, natural vaginal lubrication diminishes, the vaginal walls begin to lose sensitivity, and substantial discomfort is often experienced during intercourse. But do not fret! You can purchase a variety of water-based lubricants available in an array of flavors, colors, scents, and performance, some heat up a little to give you a tingling sensation.

Ways to spice-up your sex life.
Growing older means more wrinkles, less energy, and having certain parts of your body succumb to that little thing called gravity.

Your low self-esteem with regard to your aging physical appearance can affect your sex life. You might feel that you are no longer attractive or that you simply “should not” be doing those kinds of teenage things in the bedroom any more. Change that thought, and try the following suggestions to help you “spice up” your relationship, and your bedroom escapades’

Communication - The more you talk with your partner, the more you will learn about each other’s feelings, desires, expectations, concerns; and that will bring you closer to each other, and that is a turn on. So share!

Go on a date - Plan a romantic dinner either at a restaurant or at home. Buy some flowers, have some wine. If you are dining in, light the candles, put on a nice C.D instead of the TV, and the next thing you know you will feel wonderfully drawn to each other.

Try something new - Changing your appearance, even in the slightest way, can spark that libido in your partner again. Get a new hairstyle, buy a new outfit, or change your makeup. It will make you feel more attractive as well. Sometimes, whispering something a little out of character to your partner can arouse those sexual feelings.

Experiment - Don’t be afraid to try new things in the bedroom also - perhaps a new position? There are limitless sexual toys and games available for all ages, so purchase a few and bring some excitement back into your senior citizen sex life.

Get to know yourself - Last, but most certainly not least, learn about your own body. You cannot expect your partner to know or guess what makes you tick. Head to the library and inform yourself, ask your doctor questions, explore your body, and once you have discovered what turns you on, share it with your partner.

As we get older, we need to change our thinking in a positive way to match the changes in our bodies. I instead of fighting the aging process welcome it, embrace it. Older men and women have a sense of self-assuredness that the younger generation has not yet achieved. Seniors know who they are and what matters. This self-confidence is overwhelmingly attractive. Therefore, senior citizen Sex should be the pot of gold not something you lose sleep over!